Dream Home

Our homes - our families are constantly under construction - spiritual construction. The Lord is continually building each member, putting us together as a tight family unit. Each building block is carefully chosen and placed with much thought. Each new addition is deliberately planned. Love is the mortar that holds it all in place. Proverbs 14:1 says, "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands." With God's help as the masterbuilder, we can construct a magnificent home - a dream home.

Perhaps, you've been guilty like me, though, of taking the tools out of the Lord's hands and building your own way. We may even tear down what he has constructed, leaving a pile of rubble instead. Often times, we'll start with our own marriages, forgetting the Lord Himself told us "what God hath joined together let no man put asunder." We are told not to tear it apart, not to leave it in a pile of pieces, yet, divorces occur in well over half of all marriages today. It is far easier to tear something down and no real complicated tools are necessary, only a wrecking ball and a good swing!

Though many of us would never dream of divorce, we are guilty of weakening the home we are building to the point of crumbling. We get out our own tool belt and toolbox and begin dismantling our very own homes - turning them into run-down shacks. Often times, we can be guilty of getting out our hammers during every conversation with our husbands, hoping to hammer home some point we've been trying to prove. We'll get out the saw with its sharp teeth and start sawing away with our words. Discouraging and hurtful remarks are often exchanged. Biting and devouring one another as stated in Galations 5:15. We'll react with predictable comments, such as, "I knew you'd say that!" or "That's what I expected you to do". "Sorry", is not in our vocabulary. We'll use our screwdriver to put the screws to our hubby by constantly questioning his every move and motive. We will gripe and complain about his schedule or lack of one. We may get out the clamps and start tightening by buying things on credit and spending freely our husband's hard earned money. Financial decisions may be made without consulting our husband and his plans, while all the time we are building tension for the number one cause of disagreement between spouses- finances!

If we continue on in this manner, our carpentry will not hold up. In fact, we will be guilty of plucking down our home with our own hands. We'll tear it down with a pull here, a tug there. We'll destroy it a little bit at a time by nit-picking and foolishly jerking things out of their God-given place, forgetting His plan and order for our homes as found in Ephesians chapter 5. "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife." This is the first building block upon our foundation - the Lord Jesus Christ.

If we will build our homes in the proper order doing first things first, following every detail of the blueprint, the Bible says we will be wise women indeed! Following a master plan that is already tried and true will guarantee us of success. The Bible has the answer to every question, the antidote to every problem that can and will arise. No electricity? Perhaps bitterness and anger have tripped the breakers. No problem, fix it with Ephesians 4:31 and 32, "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." Is it a little cold? or too hot? Perhaps the heating and cooling system isn't installed. Put it in by turning to I Corinthians 13:4-8, "Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth."

The Lord always has the proper tools ready for our use, all charged and ready to go. We don't need to panic - the materials to build our homes are always available, there is never a shortage or out of stock item. With tried and true home building plans and lasting building materials found in the Bible, we'll have no problem building the home of our dreams.